Ego & Fame

The well-known phenomenon of "name dropping," the casual mention of who you know, is part of the ego's strategy of gaining a superior identity in the eyes of others and therefore in its own eyes through association with someone "important." The bane of being famous in this world is that who you are becomes totally... Continue Reading →

Flow – The key to unlocking meaning, creativity, peak performance, and true happiness

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi's investigations of "optimal experience" have revealed that what makes an experience genuinely satisfying is a state of consciousness called flow. During flow, people typically experience deep enjoyment, creativity, and a total involvement with life. His studies led him to conclude that happiness is an internal state of being, not an external one. His popular... Continue Reading →

The two kinds of stories we tell about ourselves

We are all storytellers — all engaged, as the anthropologist Mary Catherine Bateson puts it, in an “act of creation” of the “composition of our lives.” Yet unlike most stories we’ve heard, our lives don’t follow a predefined arc. Our identities and experiences are constantly shifting, and storytelling is how we make sense of it. By... Continue Reading →

The Politics of Conspicuous Displays of Self-Care

There are 1.6 million images tagged with #selfcare on Instagram and a few million more on Twitter and Tumblr, most of them posted in 2016. “Self-care” is newer in the American lexicon than “self-reliance,” but both stem from the puritanical values of self-improvement and self-examination. “Self-care” is newer in the American lexicon than “self-reliance,” but both... Continue Reading →

The science behind the rise of narcissism

The rise of individualism (with its focus on the self and inner feelings) and decline in social norms that accompanied the modernisation of society means that the community and the family are no longer able to provide the same support for individuals as they once did. And research has shown that being embedded in social networks... Continue Reading →

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